Two great mysteries dominate our lives, Love and money. We generally get the impression of love from books, movies and songs. But the question is do we really understand love? And answer is no…… nobody can understand what love is…..It defies all analysis. Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. Very contrasting personalities may love each other for all the life and very similar partner may fall out of love in a short time. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation. Let’s try and investigate one question …. Why love marriages are more susceptible to failures?
Romantic movies, songs and books are full of fascinating and wonderful ideas about love. They make us feel that love is the greatest source of happiness and ones life is incomplete without love .Thus everyone want to fall in love. The first person whom you meet, who has similar preferences, likes and dislikes, is little attractive and is interested in you ...... you start fitting them into your imagination of your Mr. /Miss perfect......thus we see most young people falling in love with the first person interested in them and who have similar preferences (well you can't start spending time with first person interested in you if they are not of your type)........ Other person also tries to do justice to the role given to them, well they too has developed their fantasies from movies and books..... and when it's matter of few hours you can put yourself into any role......these young people without having any implications of real life, commits to there partners.....but when they have to face real world where there is nothing like what is potrayed in sweet romantic movies, they find it very difficult to adjust ...... now it’s time to take up responsibilities …. Life seems lot less fun ….. They vent out their frustrations on each other ….have frequent quarrels......social and parental compulsions are low.....expectation levels are quite high.....and ultimately marriage falls apart......
On the contrary, in arrange marriages we enter with a notion of making adjustments, we are ready to accept the other person as they are......and as far as real life implications are concerned, they are taken care of by our parents (who have lots of experience, and friends experience is the greatest teacher)......further the young lads are certainly more matured now and they too have a lot more understanding of real life responsibilities...........thus arranged marriages has more chances of succeeding ……
So mathematically we can sum this as .....
Love Marriage= Arranged Marriage + (love/infatuation) - Compulsions + loads of expectation
But ultimately everything depends on individuals.......... Because it’s not that all love marriages fails and all arranged marriages are successful or vice-versa ….
I have nothing against love marriages..............in fact I myself want to fall in love and have a happy and successful love marriage....but friends don't fall prey to this immature love..........and always remember that
"IT'S VERY DIFFICULT TO WAIT FOR RIGHT PERSON, ESPECIALLY WHEN WRONG PERSONS ARE SOO CUTE"
6 comments:
well, i liked the cogent way u wrote about arranged marriage and the way u ended. But certainly the piece lacks something for love marriage as it rather deals with gulf between real life and movies.As far as my view is concerned, love is a crap that the human mind and sexual hormones (together called "heart" by lovers) give birth to.it is just ones ZIDD and subconscious sexual desires that produce such feelings...rest is fine n gud writtin.
why are love marriages more susceptible to failures?
its becoz in love marriages expectations are high and as u also know when it comes to
real life implications ,they are taken care of by our parents
(who have huge experience,and friends experience is the greatest teacher) in case of
arrange marriage but this is not true for love marriage
so for making love marriages successful the persons involved have to expect less
and accept the person as he /she is
and most importantly society shud accept love marriages happily
most of the love marriages fails coz OF opposition of parents and society
in love marriage one has to adjust plus has to suffer rudeness of surrounding
people unlike araange marriages where u have to just adjust with ur lifemate
so i dont think its immature love
ACTUALLY ITS IMMATURE SOCIETY
tis1 i consider 2bur best blog as a sens of maturity n responsibilty is quite visible in ur writin.usin simple but good words the way u expressed ur thaughts in this1 was nic 2read.the mater is also very touchin as it connects al t youths n hence overaall i can say tis was a beauty 2read
well to some extent i agree with it ... but Love defies all analysis. Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation .
ab pata chala aap aajkal kya kar rae ho...... nyways a nice way of lookin at a quite debatable topic.........other thing cud be that in luv marriage couples hv already spend so much time 2gether that dere is less 2 discover abt each other
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